Read It With Me Wednesday: Planting Seeds

My job was to plant the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God, not we, who made it grow
. The ones who do the planting or watering aren’t important, but God is important because he is the one who makes the seed grow. The one who plants and the one who waters work as a team with the same purpose. Yet they will be rewarded individually, according to their own hard work.    I Corinthians 3:6-8

It is mine and JTom’s job to plant seeds in our children- seeds of love,C)’> forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal 5:22).

When we get frustrated, or lose our tempers, what kind of seeds are we planting in our children?  They aren’t seeds of love, gentleness, or self-control.

If you read about our week last week, you know our Bible lessons (continued this week) have been about Galatians 5:22- the fruit of the spirit. (This also goes along with all our books about seeds and plants, planting our garden, etc).

Each day we focus on a different fruit, and each day I examine myself and my parenting a little closer.

I have always been so even tempered with Lexie; not yelling or becoming visibly angry with her.  Until recently.  She goes from being the perfect child, to be my little monster toddler over night; sometimes it’s like she pretends she doesn’t hear me at all.  =)  I know this is typical 2-3 year old behavior; I don’t expect her to behave all the time.  She is still a very well behaved child, and in general a good listener; but we are all born sinners.

I’ve been getting frustrated and letting it show.  And last week when we began our fruit of the spirit devotionals, I decided no more.

A) Christ wouldn’t react that way and 
B) Lexie just plays off my emotions.  Not all children become more stubborn when their disciplinarian becomes angry, but mine does.

The best way, as a parent and as a person, to respond to her is with the fruit of the spirit- love,C)’> forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control

Now, that doesn’t mean timeout or discipline has stopped- it just means that that discipline is done gently, out of love for her, and with self-control from me.  And by doing that, her attitude and mine have both changed.

I want to plant seeds in my children so God may grow each into the person He has planned for them to become, so He may use their life for His will.  
This can only be done if we parent, love, and discipline Biblically.

We may be eager to seek help from others on what to do for our children; there are books, online articles, resources galore, advice from family, etc.  
But if it isn’t Biblically sound advice, it isn’t going to work.  We may have immediate results; things may look different today.  But in the long run it won’t work, if it isn’t of Christ (that goes for everything in our lives).

When we plant the seeds of Christ in our children, we glorify God so He may do His most important work- make those seeds grow into the fruit of the spirit.  Then, they can be more like Christ and do God’s work as he has planned.

What seeds are you planting in your children?

One comment

  1. Cathleen says:

    As look back, I made too many mistakes showing my frustration. I wish I could go back and change it and display more “fruits of the spirit” Great post. Makes one think and reflect.

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