Read it With Me Wednesday: Conditional Love, with Wisdom Wednesday Link Up!

Wow- already it’s July 10th!  How did we get this far into July?!  I am excited though,  because in a few days my mom will be in town to see us and the littles!  It will be so much fun.  Lexie can’t wait, and Max has started saying, “Mia.”  Not sure if he understands that Mia is the lady he sees on the phone .. but I guess he is about to figure it all out.  (She and our Granny were the only two people he let hold him when we went to visit family, so maybe he will remember that.)

Anyhow, we hope everyone had a fun and safe July 4th with their loved ones.  =)


This week something has been weighing heavily on my heart; it is something a friend mentioned that pinpointed my feelings exactly.

Conditional “love.”

Sometimes there are situations in life that don’t go according to plan.

Not my plans.

Not your plans.

Not a loved one’s plans.

But I bet (if I were a betting woman … and I’m not really, cause I don’t like giving away money that could support my family, or buy diapers, or what not…), that it is someone’s plan.

Sometimes, we can’t control someone else’s life.  Their life choices.  Their BIG decisions.  Their small decisions.  Or their decisions as a family.

But when this happens, it is not a time or place to treat them with disrespect, or any differently than you have in the past.

It is an opportunity to pray for them.

It is an opportunity to think about how you can make changes within yourself, so you can be a great support system.

But pulling away or being rude and snide, is not the way to be.  And chances are it can make that someone pull away from you, causing a lot more damage than you think.

Love is not conditional.

Love is not, “When you do what I want for your life, I support you, bring you gifts, and in general kiss the seat of your pants.”  (was that phrased nicely enough?)  

In other words, Love does not insist on its own way (I Corinthians 13:4-7)

Love is not arrogant or rude. (I Corinthians 13:4-7)  Just because you think your plans or dreams are most important, doesn’t give you the right to belittle someone else’s plans or dreams.

Love does not talk about people behind their backs, whether they are family, friends, or foe,  because you don’t like a decision they have made.  

Or that their life is going well, when yours is stagnant.

Or how they do things.  

Or that they make mistakes.  Because you never make mistakes, right?  Of course you do, we all do!

Or that they don’t make enough mistakes.

It does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth. (I Corinthians 13:4-7)
Love is patient, love is kind.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I am guilty of not always expressing love with the words that come out of my mouth.  Those words come to manifest in our hearts.

Do your words and actions manifest love for others?  Especially the others that need your support, your true love, that which is not conditional based on them doing what you want?

Be kind.  Be genuinely kind- not kind when things go your way, or when you are getting exactly what you want.  Because people see through it, especially when you suddenly change how you treat them, and therefore they get hurt.

Just be kind, and show how much you love them.

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; …  I Corinthians 13:1-3


Here is the linky for Wisdom Wesnesday.  If you have a helpful, inspiring, or homemaking link to add please do so!  Otherwise, grab a cup of coffee (or tea … or water.  Or whatever) and enjoy some good reading!


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