It has been a while since I did a Dear Lexie post. Looks like now I need to add Dear Max posts, too. Tonight was a fitting night for this selection on my list of topics to blog. It turns out today was national siblings day, so that created a bit of a somber night for me. J.Tom is out of town until tomorrow, and the kids are in bed asleep. All I want to do is go hold them (but Lexie has been feeling insecure the past few nights, crying a bed time, so i def think going in to hold her would make that situation much worse. Tonight she didn’t cry, and went right to sleep). My thoughts of my brother always bring me to a sad place. I just miss him so much, and I feel like I forget more of him every day. I’ve tried to write things down that I’ve remembered over the past 3.5 years, but I know I can’t remember it all. Anyhow, on top of those feelings and just the need to write something down, I decided it was a good night for a Dear Lexie post.
Tonight, as I was working on some Bible scriptures for us to talk about in the coming weeks, I came across a verse that stopped me in my tracks. The minute I read it, I thought to myself “If there were only one thing I could say to her for the rest of her life, this is it.”
The section was titled “Shining as Stars“
In which you shine like stars in the universe.
Please don’t be afraid to be different. Please don’t be afraid to shine like a star. Not a movie star, or a music star, or any star of the flesh, but a star in which God crafted every prism of light, every twinkle and every color for a purpose. His purpose. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel less than good enough; God created you piece by piece in His image so that you may one day live in His kingdom. When you are judged (and you will be) or talked down to (and you will be) for your faith, your convictions, or your kindness, remember you are a shining star, and that despite what others may say or think, there are people who love you for you. And one day, you will find someone, like your daddy and I found each other, that loves you for your love of Christ. For the love that pours out of your every pore. For the funny personality, the smart mind, the beautiful spirit that you share every day.
As your mama, I am going to do everything I can to mold your character into a Christ loving and following young lady. Never be afraid to go against society. Society is full of evil, malice, and selfishness; and you my sweet girl are non of those things. Don’t hide in a closet, of course, but arm yourself with the Word of God, and ask that he arm your heart and mind that you might live the life he has envisioned for you, to do His work. Your daddy and I are trying to build that foundation now, and I pray that we take more right steps than we do wrong; that we may hide His Word in your heart so you have the protection you need in life.
Grow. Grow every day. When your life feels stagnant, open your Bible and read. Do something good for another person in need. Make cookies for your neighbor. Volunteer to work with small children who may not get love at home. And in everything you do, seek Him and He will fill your life full of blessings. He loves you for who you are, but despite this He wants you to be like Jesus. Kind, compassionate, patient, loving. Those are big shoes to fill, I know. But today, when you put on your new “summer play, pool shoes,” you looked down and said, “Oh! I have shoes like Jesus’s shoes!” And my sweet Lou, you were made to fill those shoes.
I can’t protect you from every evil, every hurt, every harsh word. But I can prepare you for it. I can show you how to love, and I can lead by example. I wish I had always had a love for reading the Bible as I have now. I was blessed enough to fall in love with your daddy, who had a strong Christian faith and lead me to wanting an even stronger relationship with Christ. But not everyone is so fortunate. Some people settle for less, because they think they will never find someone who shares the same beliefs, the same convictions. Just know this- you were created by the Master Creator, and in His plan for you there lies happiness and love; if you strive to live close to his heart and in the light of his Grace, you will be blessed on earth beyond your comprehension, and have an everlasting life in Heaven.
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”
― Max Lucado
This is so true. Don’t chase boys or men or love. There is no need to go searching for love; when you establish the foundation for love through a relationship with Christ, a love on earth will come. The same goes with friends. Not everyone will be kind, or understand who you are. A nd that is okay. You don’t need everyone to like you, life is not a popularity contest. Try not to fall into the ways of the world, for the world is corrupt and unkind. Instead, surround yourself with Godly people, show them the bright, shining star you are. Set the example so that others might want to follow. And above all, give glory to God; for without him we would all have and be nothing.
I love you Lou,