Baby Dispositions- Touchy Baby- {Baby Summary 10/11 weeks}

11-weeks-TOUCHY baby-summary

This week I really saw how Coralie is a “touchy baby;” she is really starting to come into her own personality and I am enjoying learning about her. She also showed me that she isn’t hungry at the 3 hour mark anymore; we have gradually shifted to 3.15-3.5hour routine and she is eating MUCH better now. This seems to also have helped her naps.

She seems to still have a witching hour in the evening, and it may have increased a bit in length; I am not sure why yet… We didn’t really settle into this new routine/schedule until today actually (Friday, her 11 week mark) but she has been showing me she was ready for a few days.

I’ve learned that as a parent when you start thinking, “Hmm, I wonder if she is wanting to stretch her feedings/sleep/waketime/etc,” she probably is! Go with your gut- use your tools, like helpful books, but use them in conjunction with your gut and you won’t go wrong. Oh .. and be consistent! 😉

The Routine/Schedule Now Is:

  • 6:45-7am nurse, bottle
  • 7:30 nap
  • 10:15am nurse bottle
  • 11:00 nap
  • 1:30pm nurse bottle
  • 2:15 nap
  • 4:30pm nurse bottle
  • 5:30 swing for cat nap
  • 6pm nurse (?) sometimes I try to skip this cluster feed
  • 6:45-7pm nurse bottle
  • Bed right after eating. She usually fusses and eats 1-2 more times after I put her to bed, until about 8:00pm
  • ***Waking between 5-6:30am– I have started putting her in the swing with a paci to sleep until DWT of 6:45-7am. This has worked the few times that I’ve tried it, hopefully at some point, skipping nursing this early will help her sleep through to DWT (it helps by training her metabolism and sleep patterns if she is ready).**Also, I chose to try and skip eating at this early wake time because she wasn’t taking a FULL feeding, but just enough that she wasn’t hungry at her DWT; thus she would wake early from nap hungry. By holding her off until DWT (designated wake time), she gets in a good, full feeding and starts her day off better! Also, DWT most definitely affects how baby sleeps the following night so keeping that routine consistent is important for good, solid sleep.

Coralie is back in the Woombie, after a nap or two of busting out of the swaddle waking herself, and she seems happy again. So Woombie it is! She is still swaddled and then Woombied at night, and that is working for now.

This week she began spinning in her sleep; it has always been rotating to her left but today she started rotating to her right! How funny their development is!

She still seems to need to cry before sleeping. I put her down awake, but drowsy and within a few minutes she is fussing. She hasn’t learned to settle herself, and cry it out (in small amounts of time) doesn’t seem to help. So after she gets a good cry in I go pat her to sleep. It takes maybe 20 seconds. She just can’t get there alone yet, but I am sure it will come. Read why I let her cry a little HERE, in last week’s update. It is just her way of decompressing for now.

Eating

We have a big growth spurt coming up at 12 weeks, so that should kick in soon. Right now Coralie is nursing well, and has become much more efficient, finishing a feeding within 15 minutes. She then takes 4-6oz of a bottle, sometimes more.

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We have moved from the crazy expensive Nutramigen formula (which is just corn syrup solids- Yuck!) to a homemade recipe! (Not the bone broth recipe I made for Max and Ila, which is also great, but takes a little more work.) I will have a separate post on the new recipe soon. =)

I feel like Coralie may have more updates on the blog than Ila did, simply because she changes more from week to week with her touchy personality dictating things so much. Ila was an angel baby- by the book. Super easy; just simple and tagged along. Coralie most definitely lets us know when things are not okay with her, and that is a lot of the time. *sigh*

What is a Touchy Baby?

Per the Baby Whisperer– Touchy babies are the most fragile; they thrive on routine and NEED predictability. She says the more consistent you are the better you will understand each other, the happier baby will be, and the sooner she should sleep through the night. Usually touchy babies are later to the game of sleeping through the night, around 10-12 weeks. (this is certainly true for Coralie after the terrible 7-9 week wonder week!) Without a structured routine it is hard to gauge a touchy baby’s cries and that will most definitely make her more irritable. They are easily thrown off by an unexpected visitor, a dog barking, and if mama doesn’t notice and hunger or sleepy cue, baby gets upset and is hard to calm down <-- YES! YES! YES!

After nursing, Coralie gets SO upset if her bottle isn’t in her mouth within a few minutes. It is always best if I warm her bottle, then nurse, THEN have the bottle right on hand. But that just isn’t always possible. What stinks is it’s really hard to have a touchy baby as your 4th baby! Because you really need them to “tag along” and go with the flow more than the others. Thing is, people will say, “well if you just do it baby will adjust.”

NO THEY WON’T! At least not usually.

A touchy baby is such by nature; they are born that way, you can do nothing to change that. All you can do is everything possible, within reason, to make your life easier which means understanding and respecting their personality and developmental needs.

I don’t for one second believe that accommodating a touchy baby is spoiling them; it is called respect. They are people.

Do you like for people to run the vacuum or run into your bedroom screaming at the top of their lungs while you sleep?

Nope, me neither.

Do you like for dogs to unexpectedly bark loudly in your ear when you are relaxed and being cuddled? Or for someone to say they will meet you at 6pm and not show til 8pm? Yea- touchy babies don’t either!

Lexie was SO much like this, but so was I at that time in my life. I didn’t realize she needed it as much as I did, or even more. Looking back I know she was an easier-ish *ha* touchy baby because I kept her in routine, on schedule, she knew what to expect, when to expect it, and I eased her into things. For instance, she wouldn’t have done well staying away from home at 2 years old; I knew that. We waited until she was older and could make that decision herself; we respected her personality and because of that she has grown to a very independent young girl. She is confident in who she is, and recognizes what she needs- quiet time alone, snuggles with daddy, playtime outside, etc. She knows what she needs because we have helped give her the tools to do so.

I will keep praying that God continues to guide us with our newest touchy baby. =)

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12 week summary

Tomorrow Max will be 13 weeks old, so here is his 12 week update.

We went to the doctor Monday.  After hearing Max’s list of symptoms, she suggested we try to rule our a dairy protein allergy.  She gave us some sample cans of Nutramigen by Enfamil, and told me to stop eating dairy (ARE YOU EFFIN KIDDIN ME?!  No cheese?  No cream cheese?  No milk in my protein shakes?! No CHEESE?!)  That’s right.  No cheese.  Who lives life without cheese?  Milk I can do without, except in my coffee; So non dairy creamer for me!  *ick* OK, anyway …  No dairy to see if his reflux improves or vanishes.

Guess what?  Reflux has (fingers crossed) drastically improved it seems.  Maybe it’s in my head, and maybe it is only temporary, but he seems better.  He seems to be eating a little better and nursing better, too!  He has started eating less, like he was unionterested it taking his bottles because it hurt, so he has slowed down gaining weight.  For a big baby that’s unusual, so I really hope that it continues to improve, and symptoms don’t start resurfacing.  So far so good.  I actually considered NOT writing about the improvements in case I jinx it.  I kinda figure if it is a dairy allergy, then it should stay improved, unlike the medicines we have tried that temporarily made it better.  This also means MAYBE we can wean him off the incredibly expensive and inconvenient medicine, once things are for sure under control.

Did I mention I can’t eat cheese?  You do know this means no pizza, right?  And no creamy sauces on pasta?  And no cream cheese in my chicken crockpot recipes (for me … anyway).  And no good icecream? It totally sucks, but this is like the best diet EVER!  Not to mention it will be easy to stick to since I know how miserable the dairy (has possibly been) making Max.  The only down side is the formula I have ti supplement with is incredibly expensive.  Like, super expensive.  Anyway, let’s hope things continue to take a turn for the better.

At 12 weeks, I have started trying to wean Max from his swaddle during the day.  He wakes himself up about 30 minutes in, hitting himself in the face.  But he then sucks on his hands for a while, contently…. then I have to go soothe him to sleep.  I am hoping this leads to him soothing himself, without me needing to interfere.  I can’t really do CIO until the reflux is completely under control, because the crying makes it worse.  But once it is gone (if ever) this boy is SO getting sleep trained.  He has gotten spoiled to me soothing him, because of the reflux.  Oddly, he goes down fine at night, on his own.  Day time is a different story though.  So, arms out for naps during the day, but still swaddled tight at night.  I’m not sure if he is ready, so we will just try it for a few more days, and if there is no improvement, wait and try again in a few weeks.

He is sleeping from about 7:15pm-5:30am, which is when he wakes up with some gas … that is if he didn’t wake up earlier hitting himself because he broke out of the swaddle.  Grrr.  I am ready for him to be done with the swaddle and used to his arms- dang startle reflex …

He seems to be eating better.  He definitely seems to be nursing better.  I think it is taking a little time for him to get used to the new formula, because he seems a little more bothered with gas.  But it’s more like the “grunting, squirming gas” not the “screaming, sharp pains” gas.

Lexie is 27 months old now.  She has started napping better, hopefully we are most of the way through all the teeth, the pooping at nap time, etc.  I have finally found her window of sleepiness- when she wakes at 6:30am, which is most days, she needs to be in bed for nap at 11:45!  By 12:15 she has caught her second wind and is over tired, cranky, ROWDY, and will NOT sleep at that point.  She then needs a 6:15pm bed time to make up for it.  But if I get her to nap she stay up until about 7:15-7:30.

She is really enjoying her gymnastics, and school.  She loves her teacher, and talks about her friends a lot.  She is very enthusiastic about painting at school, and playing outside on all their playground equipment.

We introduced the topic of Christmas, and put up our tree this week.  We got a real tree, like we always do.  It is a smaller one, since we don’t have much room.  I wrapped gifts the other night and put them under there.  Lexie came in the next morning and said those were “for baby Jesus.”  haha  I explained they were to celebrate baby Jesus being born, and went into the Christmas story thing…  She doesn’t quite grasp it all, but the more we talk about it this month the more she will.  We’ve read the Bible story her whole life, but I’m not sure if she has completely made the connection.  She is very excited about “our family Christmas tree!” and has it watch her dance, she talks to it.  It’s pretty hilarious.

She loves playing with her doll house (especially with Mama), reading her books, playing in her kitchen, and singing!  In the last 2 months she has started making up her own songs-it’s precious!  She also know all the words to several songs we listen to in the car.  She has a name for each song- like the “naughty song” the “arkansas song” “Lexies song” “motorboatin’ song”  … her name for each song in no way reflects the title or words in the song.  Well, except for Motorboatin’- that’s a country song about a pontoon boat.  haha  Her favorite is “Good Night BAAAAYBAY” as she says, which is the chorus in a song.

JTom is raking leaves today, I am making chilli and doing laundry.  Lexie, Max and I had a wonderful play date this morning with my girlfriends and their boys, so that was fun.  Overall, it’s been a great week!


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